The One: Is marriage possible? (in three minutes)

There is a story behind this teaching from over a year ago, I cannot tell it now...but one day I will.  My friend Scott talks about where dreams can carry to the wrong goals, but that yes, marriage is possible.  Below is a transcription of the best part, about 3 minutes.

QUESTION:  Is it really possible for marriage to work? …to commit themselves for a lifetime? If you look around maybe not, statistics say 1/2 the people who get married don't make it. …If possible, what does it take?  ….

RESPONSE: "....we talked about this thing:  how we all, at a young age, we start looking for "the one", you know  its just something that is "ingrained" in us. We start looking for the one. 

We think If we just find the one, our life will be complete. Young adults and single people you know it easy sometimes to get  obsessed with finding "the one". 

Sometimes you get married and realize that "I choose the wrong one" and you you start looking for "the one" again.

Even little girls from a very young age: there are fairy tales about the princess and the knight, the one knight who comes and rescues them and little girls as they grow up and start dreaming and planning at a very young age their wedding night (or their wedding day).  I guess its the boys that are think about the wedding night.  

So the girls' think about the wedding day, and think about walking down the aisle, they think about their dress, making their vows, getting married, they think about having a family, having the 2.5 children that we have, and just living happily ever after. 

What we said that first week is that maybe "the one" we are looking for is the wrong one.  Maybe "the one",  as followers of Christ, as Christians, maybe the one everyone should be looking for is actually God. And its a relationship with Christ that we need to find and discover and pursue in our lives.  And have that as the foundation.  And then once we have that as "the one" with Christ, then we can go and start looking for our "two".  And we set ourselves up for a much more likelihood of success if we have the one in order and pursue our two that we want to marry and spend our lives with. 
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Full teaching here... Thank you Scott Himes, it was good to remember brother
 http://blip.tv/file/3258565?filename=Lifechurchindy-SurvivingAsOne972.m4v

LOGOS Leadership

If you can only take away one thing, it was a successful meeting, conference or whatever.

A consultant from LOGOS institute a communication agency, came to teach senior leaders at work.  I got a surprise invitation, even though my pay grade just didn't match the audience.  I sat for less than an hour...but couldn't help thinking about how it might help me talk to my son, and talk to God about those who NEED help.

LEADERSHIP is understanding where they might be, meeting them where they are.  Attentive to what they care about and focus on that first. LISTEN

1. Prevent confusion: too much communication spent fixing self-inflicted harm
2. Facts are rarely persuasive:  You lead with data, most people don't respond well to data.
3. Need to be intentional: Listen